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A Lifted Burden

Posted 12th August 2013 1212

I dated this guy for 9 months. During that time, I would vent to my friends about all the stupid shit he said and did. Whatever, I still liked him. But after a while, they were over it. They said he was a bad guy and justified their opinion that I should break up with him by saying, “We just want you to be happy, and you’re not.”

I knew deep down that I had two options - break up with him and be sad, or stay with him and be sad - and neither of them would make me happy. But finally, a few fights too many came and we broke up on awesome terms, deciding we would be better as friends. And things are a ton better - now whenever he says something I don’t like, I let it roll off my back instead of getting sad about it. It’s great, and I’m a lot happier.

Well today I was talking to one of my friends and mentioned his name and she’s like, “I don’t know why you’re still talking to/hanging out with him. It’s not a good idea.” And you know what I said? “I didn’t ask for your opinion, and I honestly don’t care. I’m happy, and that’s all you ever wanted.”

And frankly, I didn’t care what she had to say about him. I was over her hypercritical comments and upturned nose when it came to him. I decided right then and there that no one is allowed to bash one of my friends, not even another one of my friends. And that decision has relieved me of a huge burden I had been carrying. I was trying to please two different parties instead of myself, but now that I don’t have to choose, I’m so much happier.

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