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My boyfriend and I had a chat last night, he basically said he wants us to move in together and can’t see why i’m against it. (He has a much larger house than me and it’s more feasible for me to move into his place) The thing is, i’m a single parent, he gets on great with my child and vice versa. I’m very independant though and moving in together will mean i have to rely on him almost totally for financial support. (i’m in full time study and certain monies i get will change depending on my partners income).
I think i’m also in fear of the relationship not working out and me basically being left with nothing. I’d have to give up my house (rented) and a lot of stuff in it to be with him. A part of me says to go for it but a BIG part of me says i am making a huge mistake, putting my life into someone elses hands. The love in the relationship is NOT the problem, i know he is in love with me and the feelings are definitely reciprocated.
Why can’t i just make a decision and stick with it?
If i refuse to move in i will end up losing him, there’s no doubt about it. If i do move in and end up with nothing where will that leave me and my child?
Everyone says guys are afraid of commitment, in this relationship however i think it’s me who has the fear!
Any advice anyone?
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Posted by Anonymous 21st October 2010
The real commitment here would be marriage. Is he willing to be a husband to you and a father to your child? Perhaps the reason your feeling so much fear is because there is still no hard commitment, the two of you would still be dating. Ask yourself, if he proposed, if he wanted to be your husband, not just your live in boyfriend, would you feel better joining with him more fully? Because if your married, its not giving up everything you have, its joining everything the two of you have together.