Posted 30th November 2008 2826

Ever have those moments of deep realization when you wish you could undo something you just did? I got an e-mail from my dad today thanking me for agreeing to take some pictures of his local choir before their performance, which I do every year. this year I told him I wasn’t planning on attending, and don’t remember telling him I would take the pictures.

I left him a blunt, rude voicemail telling him to find someone else, three hours before the concert.

He called me back, saying I had made a promise to take the photos… on Thanksgiving. I tried to apologize and tell him I would go ahead anyway, but he brushed me off, saying he was sorry for bothering me and he would find someone else. He didn’t say it, but I could sense the bitter disappointment.


This is a particularly bad time for this to happen. He doesn’t approve of me living with my boyfriend and refuses to come in the house, but he came to pick me up for dinner one night last week when I was stuck there, hungry, without a car. Mom says she would never have thought he would do it. And he says I made this promise on Thanksgiving, which I honestly don’t remember.

I remember talking about the concert briefly, saying I wasn’t planning on going, but was that with Mom or Dad? And I definitely don’t remember making a promise. But my memory is damaged. Not by an accident or anything, it just isn’t very good. Dad has never lied to me to my knowledge, and I don’t see any reason why he would lie about this.

I feel like a complete ass. Convincing him over the phone wouldn’t work, so I sent him an apologetic e-mail, which he should get on his Blackberry. Whether he finds someone else or not, I’ll be there to take the pictures. I just hope he will forgive me.

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