Posted 30th June 2014 1827

So I’ve been letting an old friend and her partner stay with me for the last month, as she had to leave her last place due to problems with her flatmates, and I’d pushed my own house-moving date back by three weeks in order to do so.

…It has been an actual nightmare, more than causing me untold amounts of stress, I’ve actually realised that I despise this person. I lend her money, cigarettes, food, shampoo… because she says she’s broke, but both her and her partner work and have loads of financial support from their parents. They’ve wasted hundreds of pounds of savings and keep expecting people to bail them out! All I hear is excuse after excuse, as if they’re entitled to help because both of them are, in their own words, “rubbish with money”.

To top it all off, last week she comes into my room (without knocking, I might add) and starts complaining that she feels bad. It turns out that her step dad has caught her charging her shopping to his credit cards… But she’s not feeling sad because she’s guilty, she doesn’t understand why she’s “being made” to feel so crap by her family!

Bear in mind that I’ve been paying rent and bills on both this place and my new flat for the last few months while desperately looking for a job and living incredibly frugally in the meantime. I’ve had absolutely no financial help from this friend or her boyfriend. It’s such a massive slap in the face when her mother takes her shopping and buys her bags full of new clothes, gives her a supermarket gift card for groceries and pays her travel costs for work…and I’m still expected to listen to my friend complain about how her mother is mean and her life is so hard and unfair.

When this girl asked if she could stay, she knew I was planning to move in the next two weeks, so I assumed she’d be sorted by then. But when I asked her what day she was leaving and taking all her stuff, she said that she intended to stay in my flat after I’d left, until she could get the keys to her new flat! I told her how inappropriate that was and ended up having to extend my bills another three weeks from then in order to stay with her.
The next thing I hear is that her boyfriend doesn’t have anywhere to stay (can’t stay with her because he doesn’t get on with her new flatmates) so apparently he’s moving into one of the spare rooms in my new flat until MY flatmates move in… All this is TOLD to me, not asked, and unfortunately I’m not the kind of person to leave somebody in a rubbish situation.

Trying to pay rent, bills, job searching etc left me having a bit of an anxiety meltdown, so my friend and her partner told me they would give me a small amount of money and take me for a meal as thanks for everything I’d done for them. (Bear in mind, I was always the one to buy drinks, share cigarettes, food etc). I thought this was great, it seemed that maybe my friend wasn’t so selfish after all.
Until yesterday, we were at a bar-they had been paid- they had bought me three drinks between them- (I’d paid for my own food)- and she turns to me and said: “Well this can count as the meal we were going to take you for”.

My. Brain. Exploded.

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