Posted 7th January 2016 1830

I’m in my final year of university. My friend and flatmate, who has been with me now for three 3 years, was diagnosed with bipolar at the beginning of this academic year, which would explain her erratic behaviour. She has to be sectioned almost, she was taken into hospital for around a month to see which medications she should be put on etc. I was so upset, as was my other flatmate and friend who also lived with her. We were so worried about her, tried to go and visit her but she pushed us away, which I understood to be honest. When she was eventually discharged, we did our best to be understanding and help her in any way possible. She’s had a hard life, her dad committed suicide when she was younger and she only got back in touch with her mother last year. But then, her attitude started to change, and we couldn’t understand why because it had been a while since she was put on her medication so we assumed she would have adjusted to them by now. Suddenly, her bipolar became an excuse for everything. It became an excuse for us to lend her money so that she could go on shopping sprees and nights out, it because an excuse to feel entitled to taking away things from us and being mean to us. It became an excuse to use and abuse us, and to get everything she wanted. Her feeling of entitlement just grew and grew. We tried talking to her about it, saying that she couldn’t just use it as an excuse for everything. She turned on us and a bitched about us to other people making us look like the bad people and making her look like the victim, even though we were the ones suffering in silence. I don’t know what to do anymore, I pity her because of what she’s been through and what she is going through, but at the same time I feel trapped as a result of that, but also hurt from being used and abused.

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