Posted 10th September 2011 2420

Last month, my sister-in-law (21 years old, not married or in any type of stable relationship) discovered she is pregnant. The girl is completely NOT ready to raise a child: emotionally, financially, or maturity-wise. Even so, she quickly ruled out the options of adoption or abortion, saying she ?couldn?t live with herself if she did anything but raise the child herself?. She doesn?t even make 20K a year, doesn?t even know which of two men got her pregnant, and just seems to be assuming that everything will work itself out even though she isn?t making any kind of plans or arrangements. Because my husband and I aren?t jumping for joy, she?s been whining to the Mother-in-law that my husband and I are being ?negative and not supportive of her,? which in turn creates flak for us from the MIL. Oh, and the MIL seems to think that we should all be stepping up to support (financially and otherwise) SIL. Well you know what? I?ll be DAMNED if I?m going to reward her poor decisions by sacrificing my hard earned money, time, and energy. And the worst part is, the ones who are suffering the most so far are SIL?s parents. MIL seems to think that everything will work out perfectly and everyone in the family is going to be completely fine and happy with being available and at the ready to help SIL out with the baby in any way she may need. My father-in-law, on the other hand, is being realistic and rational, but every time he tries to bring up the fact that everyone else has their own lives and well-being to look out for, and that for some people money and distance is too much of a barrier, it spurs a fight between them. Don?t get me wrong, I feel bad for saying this because I know it would be hard for her to go through, but I honestly think that the BEST thing that could happen in this situation would be for her to have a miscarriage. Ugh.

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